Arguing With Yourself?

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Do you ever argue with yourself? I’m sure we’ve all done this at some point, but if your dominant personality blend is an “opposite blend” then you struggle with this every day! I like to refer to it as having a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. Each of us has our own unique personality blend using the DISC Model of Human Behavior. In the DISC Model, 80 percent of people are dominant in two of the four letters. If you want a deeper look at DISC then visit http://www.UsingDISC.com for more insights. Some people have dominant letters that are considered a “natural blend”. This means both of the letters have a lot in common. These blends would be the letters D/I or S/C. Others have a complementary blend. This means both of the letters have some things in common, but other things that are quite different. These blends would be the letters D/C or I/S. The less common blend is called an “opposite blend”. With this blend, the letters have nothing in common. You are not actually born this personality blend. It happens from conditioning (which is another article in itself). When you are an “opposite blend”, you experience inner conflict on a daily basis. This happens because part of you is telling you to do things one way and another part of you is telling you to do the exact opposite. The struggle is real! Do you know your personality blend? It’s extremely easy to discover your blend by doing an online assessment. These can be purchased in our online store and are VERY reasonably priced! Not only will you discover your personality blend, you’ll also receive an insightful report. This report reveals your natural strengths, challenges, and communication style. If you’d like to find out your personality blend or simply sign up to receive our free weekly video tip or monthly newsletter, simply go to http://www.UsingDISC.com. We’d love to introduce you to a world of personality!

About the Author:

Angel Tucker is a communication specialist, expert personality profiler, best selling author, award winning author and mother of 5 who has been speaking professionally for nearly 3 decades! The valuable insights she shares can give her audience the tools to succeed in becoming a more impactful leader, eliminating conflict, building teams, increasing customer satisfaction and retention, reducing employee turnover, self improvement, bettering relationships, effective parenting, and so much more! As a C.H.B.C. (Certified Human Behavior Consultant) she has helped many tens of thousands of people create win/win situations in every aspect of their lives!  Her non-fiction book titled “Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On – the power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain became a National Best Seller the same month it was released. She is a valuable resource for media as an expert in her field and is regularly featured on National radio/television and internet venues as well as magazines. Angel is a highly sought after speaker who has worked with several well-known organizations to include Wal-Mart, EXIT Realty Corp. International, Women’s Council, San Diego State University, the United States Air Force and many more. Additionally, she has created an Award-Winning children’s book series called the “Four Pals” book series that teaches kids how to recognize different personality types and appreciate their differences. Angel pours her heart into every session she does and has a true passion for leaving the campground better than she found it as well as making a difference in people’s lives.

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Opposite Personality Blends using the DISC Model of Human Behavior

In addition to Natural Blends and Complementary Blends, which I discussed in recent posts, there are also opposite blends. Examples of opposite blends are: D/S, S/D, I/C, or C/I.

If you are one of these blends, you were not born this way. You have conditioned, or taught yourself to be this way over a period of time. Typically this happens out of necessity. For example – maybe you were a first born child who was naturally an “S” but a tragic event caused you to have to raise your siblings. You would, out of necessity, most like become more “D” to adapt to the situation. There can be good or factors that shape and mold our personality type. Some people have so many learned personality traits that they actually show on an assessment as “LEVEL”! This is only about 1 percent of the population.

When you are an opposite blend, this could easily create struggles within yourself and make you feel conflict. For example: if you are an I/C you may really want to go have some fun but you must do your absolute best on the current project and still meet deadline. Once I met an I/C who was playing with play dough and having a blast. As he was playing with the play dough, he was describing how it is sodium based, thus causing it to dry out quickly. This is the perfect example of an opposite blend! If you’ve ever seen the movie Patch Adams, Robin Williams plays an I/C blend in the movie.

I hope this has helped you understand opposite personality blends. No matter what your blend, remember to always let your personality shine!

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Complementary Personality Blends Using DISC

We are all our own unique combination of the four personality types D,I,S and C. About 80 percent of us are dominant in two of the four. It other words, you have 2 types that you operate in most of the time. We call this your “blend”. There are natural blends, complementary blends, and opposite blends. This article will discuss the complementary blends. I will cover the other blends in other posts. Here is a brief description of complementary blends:

If you are a D/C or a C/D, this is called a complementary blend. They have some things in common and some things that are very different.  If you have this blend you typically make a great business leader since you have both the drive to achieve (D) and the ability to deal with details (C). Below is a list of several  characteristics these two have in common:

 

Being task oriented

Being more private in nature with their feelings

Liking to make plans

Being involved with projects

Liking things to have a process

Making decisions based on logic

 

Here is a list of differences between the D and the C types:

D is outgoing while C is more reserved

D believes in quantity while C believes in quality

D prefers the bottom line while C prefers details and information

D types think about the now while C types think about the future

D types have moods that change quickly while C types have moods that change more slowly

D types prefer to move quickly while C types prefer to move slowly

D types are multi-tasked while C types prefer to work on one or two projects at a time

D types are fast starters while C types are strong finishers

 

If you are an I/S or a S/I, this is also a complementary blend. These blends also have some things in common and some which are different. If you are this blend then you are normally great when it comes to dealing with people! Here are several other characteristics these two have in common:

Being people oriented

Sharing emotions easily

Showing interest in others

Developing relationships

Spending time with others

Making decisions based on feelings

 

Here is a list of differences between the I and the S types:

I is outgoing while S is more reserved

I believes in quantity while S believes in quality

I prefers the bottom line while S prefers details and information

I types think about the now while S types think about the future

I types have moods that change quickly while S types have moods that change more slowly

I types prefer to move quickly while S types prefer to move slowly

I types are multi-tasked while S types prefer to work on one or two projects at a time

I types are fast starters while S types are strong finishers

 

If you’d like to know more about personality types visit us at: http://www.personalityprofiles.org. We have the largest selection of resources available to teach you more about personality types using the DISC model of human behavior. If you are looking for a dynamic speaker for YOUR next event, email us at: personalitypro@msn.com

 

Angel Tucker is an expert personality profiler who has been speaking professionally at venues across North America for over 25 years! Her dynamic presentations empower people with the ability to read personality types within 60 seconds! This valuable insight can give her audience the tools to succeed in self improvement, bettering relationships, effective parenting, and job advancement! As a C.H.B.C. (Certified Human Behavior Consultant) she has helped tens of thousands of people create win/win situations in every aspect of their lives!  Her non-fiction book titled “Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On – the power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain became a National Best Seller the same month it was released. She is a valuable resource for media as an expert in her field and is regularly featured on National radio/television and internet venues as well as magazines. Angel is a highly sought after speaker who has worked with several well known organizations to include Wal-Mart and the United States Air Force. Additionally she has created an Award Winning children’s book series called the “Four Pals” book series that teaches kids how to recognize different personality types and appreciate their differences. Her latest writing credits include another children’s book and a collaborative effort with Authors such as Mark Victor Hansen, Jack Canfeld and Les Brown.

Natural Personality Blends Using DISC

We are all our own unique combination of the four personality types D,I,S and C. About 80 percent of us are dominant in two of the four. It other words, you have 2 types that you operate in most of the time. We call this your “blend”. There are natural blends, complimentary blends, and opposite blends. This article will discuss the natural blends. I will cover the other blends in future posts. Here is a brief description of natural blends:

If you are a D/I or and I/D, this is what is called a natural blend. Both types are outgoing, both types live in extremes, and both types have emotions that change very quickly. There are several other characteristics these two have in common such as:

Talking with their hands

Interrupting when others are talking

Speaking very quickly

Being quick to spend money

Getting bored easily

Keeping items all over their desk

Piling items when they are going from one place to another

Being quantity driven

If you are an S/C or a C/S, this is also a natural blend. Both types are more reserved, both types prefer to work on one project at a time, and both types have emotions that change more slowly. There are several other characteristics these two have in common such as:

Not jumping into things right away – taking a deeper look

Being more thrifty in nature

Being quality driven

Being compassionate

Speaking more slowly

Using few or no hand gestures

Gathering information

Pausing before speaking

If you’d like to know more about personality types visit us at: http://www.personalityprofiles.org. We have the largest selection of resources available to teach you more about personality types using the DISC model of human behavior. If you are looking for a dynamic speaker for YOUR next event, email us at: personalitypro@msn.com

 

 

Strategies for Getting Along with a “D” type using DiSC Part 2

In my most recent post, I listed 4 tips to help create better interactions with the “D” or Dominant personality type. Here are some more tips for getting along with the “D” types!

5. Use words that appeal to their personality! “D” types are attracted to words that emphasize “status and prestige”. Some examples would be: great, powerful, biggest, best, bold. These words peak their interest!

6. Don’t tell a “D” type to do something! When you tell this personality to do something, they didn’t hear what you said. What they heard is “Do you want to fight?” Instead, you can use a few strategies to create that win/win situation:

             a. Give them choices, but let them make the decision. For example: Do you want to    go to the post office first or would you rather pick up your dry cleaning first?

            b. Issue a challenge! When you tell a “D” type they can’t do something, they most likely will do it!

7. Don’t expect perfection! “D” types believe in quantity, not quality. They do something “good enough” then move on to the next project.

8. Keep things moving! “D” personalities get bored very easily so move quickly! They also like to work on more than one thing at a time so keep them busy!

Want to learn more about interacting with the different personality types? Check out my best-selling book titled: Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! The power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain! You can even read a few chapters for free on my blog!

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Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler and Certified Human Behavior Consultant with over 23 years of experience as an International Speaker. She is also a best-selling Author, award winning Author, mother of 4, and a military spouse.

 

Strategies for Getting Along with a “D” type using DiSC Part 1

“D” personality types are those outgoing, task oriented people who have a bottom line communication style! They can be very difficult to get along with if you don’t know how to effectively communicate with them. Here are some tips for getting along with the “D” personality type.

1. When you are asking them for  their opinion on something, or need them to make a decision – use the word “think”. For example, “What do you think about….”. This would be instead of asking how they feel. “D” types make decisions based on logic instead of emotion. If you ask them how they feel, they will probably respond with something like “Well, I think…..”.

2. “D” types want you to be brief, be brilliant, and be gone! Remember time is money when you are dealing with this personality type so don’t try to engage in idle chit chat unless they start the conversation.

3. “D” types don’t like to repeat themselves so listen up the first time when they are giving you information. They also don’t want you to tell them something more than once.

4. If there is bad news you need to tell them, let them know quickly. Don’t worry about them being upset. Oftentimes, they are going to fix the problem anyway.

I hope this gives you some great insights into interacting with “D” personality types. I will include more strategies for interacting with a “D” personality in my next blog!

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler and Certified Human Behavior Consultant with over 23 years of experience as an International Speaker. She is also a best-selling Author, award winning Author, mother of 4, and a military spouse.

 

Getting Along With The Supportive “S” Personality in DiSC Part 2

In my most recent blog, I gave you 4 tips for getting along with the supportive “S” personality type. This is part 2 of the same topic!

5. “S” types are never in a hurry. If you try to rush them – bad things happen! To work around this, always give the “S” types extra time. If you need to leave the house at 5pm for example – it’s best to tell them 4:45 instead of 5:00pm. This way you’ll still be “on time” without having to rush them!

6. “S” types are information gatherers. They want to know as much as they can about a particular topic – but they don’t like details to be complex. Give them easy to understand information and you’ll have a happy “S” type!

7. “S” types can get overwhelmed by their own emotions. Sometimes they are so overwhelmed, they need help getting to the root of the problem. The best way to help them is to repeat their concerns back to them in the form of a question. For example, if they say “I have a headache” – instead of suggesting they take some aspirin, you would say “Oh, you have a headache?” and then wait for their response. The response is usually another concern so you will repeat the process of saying it back to them in a question. After you do this three or four times, you’ll get to what is really causing them stress.

8. “S” types want to feel appreciated. Let them know how much they mean to you and how much you enjoy spending time with them. This will make them feel “on top of the world” and you’ll have a great relationship with this “S” type!

I hope you were able to get some great tips on interacting with an “S” type! In my next blog – I’ll cover the “D” personality type!

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler, Certified Human Behavior Consultant, Best-Selling Author, mother of 4 and military spouse. She is available for speaking engagements and trainings all over the world!

 

 

 

 

Getting Along With The Supportive “S” Personality in DiSC

Do you have an “S” type in your life? It’s pretty much a guarantee that all of us do! Here’s some advice to improve your relationship with them and give them the “warm fuzzy” feelings they enjoy! Stay tuned for my next post on “S” types – this is just part 1!

1. Use “S” words: Just like all other personality types, “S” types have words that they respond best to. Their words do not involve status and prestige, however. This personality type is motivated by safety and security. Here are some words that attract them: relaxing, easy-to-use, soothing, time-saving, effortless, and family friendly. You should also use the word “we” often when dealing with an “S” personality type. This will satisfy their deep desire to be “part of something”. They respond better when they feel included.

2. Go with the known, not the new: The tried, the true, the stable, the proven. Those are things that make an “S” personality type feel comfortable. Because they are more comfortable with the known and expected, don’t stress the “new” of things. Also, if there’s a problem that you need to talk to an “S” personality type about, it’s best if you also go in with the solution – remember “safety and security”.

3. Ask about family: If you really want to score major points with the “S” personality types, ask about their family. They will be so happy that you took the time to care about them. Always start your conversations with a personal comment.

4. Use the word “feel”: “S” personality types are emotional people that make decisions based on their emotions. Therefore, it is better to ask them “How do you feel?” instead of “What do you think?” when you are looking for their input or a decision.

My next post will feature more tips for getting along with the supportive “S” personality types! You can also learn more by going to my website and ordering my best-selling book titled: Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! The power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain. Just for reading this blog, you can save 25% off the purchase price by entering the code “blog” at checkout! Enjoy and remember to let your personality shine!

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler, Certified Human Behavior Consultant, Best-Selling Author, mother of 4 and military spouse. She is available for speaking engagements and trainings all over the world!

Extroverts Married to Introverts – What To Do??

They say opposites attract, which is true – but they usually don’t finish the sentence which ends with “then opposites attack”. So can opposites really have a happy and fulfilling relationship? The answer is yes! You just need to work with each other’s personality type. Let’s say, for example, that you are an extroverted personality type married to an introverted personality type. Using the DiSC model of human behavior, this would mean you are either a “D” (Dominant) or an “I” (Inspiring) personality type married to an “S” (Supportive) or a “C” (Cautious) type. Typically, conflict occurs when there is an event that will involve socializing. The extrovert is all for having a great time and the introvert…. well…. not so much! There is a way to find a happy resolution though! Here are few suggestions:

You can both agree, before going to the event, what time you will leave. This way the introvert will know exactly how long they will need to be sociable. They will also have something to look forward to – which is leaving!

You could also introduce your introverted spouse to someone else who will be there that is similar to their personality type. Make sure they feel comfortable with those around them before taking off to be the life of the party. (Yes “I” types – this is you)

Another idea is to drive separately with the understanding that the introvert can leave as soon as they are ready. This way the extrovert can stay as long as they like without the introvert having to socialize more than they want to.

It would be easy for the extrovert to be upset with the introvert for not wanting to socialize, but it’s important to understand their personality type. While the “D” or “I” type might be invigorated by being able to interact, the “S” and “C” types are actually mentally drained by the same activity. It is not something the extroverted personality type should take personally. This is simply the way that introverted personality types are wired! Instead of focusing on the fact they aren’t extroverted like yourself, you should think about some of their strengths. Introverts are great with details, they do a great job when performing and task and much more! Just because they are not extroverted doesn’t mean something is wrong with them. They are just different from you and that is okay! Finding that happy medium that BOTH extroverts and introverts can be comfortable with is sure to make the relationship better for both people! Remember to always let your personality shine!

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler, and Certified Human Behavior Consultant. She is the best-selling Author of Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On and the creator of the Four Pals children’s book series. Angel is married to a Lt. Colonel in the USAF and they have four children.

The Buying Habits of Different Personality Types Using DISC

If you are in the sales industry it is vital for you to understand what each personality type wants when buying and how much time they need to make a decision. “D” or Dominant personality types using the DiSC model of human behavior and “I” or Inpiring personality types both make decisions based on “status and prestige”. In other words, if a famous movie star owns a home in the same neighborhood where you are showing them a home for sale – you may want to mention that. This may be all they need to hear to buy that home. They will then make sure all their friends know who their neighbor is. Maybe you sell cars and you know that a famous football player drives the same kind – that’s a nugget you might want to share with them. “S” Supportive and “C” Cautious/Contemplative personality types do not need to know about the famous movie star or the football player as this will not influence their buying decision in the least. They make decisions based on “safety and security”. These two personality types want to know about long term appreciation, good school districts, warranties, etc. They choose the home that has the most benefits for their family, both now and down the road. They choose the car with the best miles per gallon or warranty. If you don’t understand this, you naturally try to sell to someone the way you want to be “sold”. You point out things that would be important to you, but they might not matter to the buyer at all.

Another difference in the buying tendencies is how long they take to make a decision. “D” and “I” personality types are very quick to spend money. “S” and “C” personality types are much slower to spend money. They want to do research, think about their decision, and then purchase. Some sales people, when encountering an “S” or “C” type actually mis-perceive them as buyers who are not serious. This is a huge mistake as these buyers are more loyal than “D” and “I” types!

When working with each personality type, it is important to understand what they want to buy. For example: a “D” type wants to know that what you are showing them is the latest, the greatest, and the newest. If there are upgrades available, they want to know about them too. They will spend as much as they can afford to get the best possible product – remember “status and prestige”. “I” personality types buy based on color, trends, and uniqueness. If they were purchasing a home, for example, they might buy the home because they like the flower bed outside the home. They might even buy the home because they like the way the current owner has decorated – even if those items aren’t staying with the home. “S” and “C” types are information gatherers. With these personality types, it is best to preview the home and take notes prior to showing the property to them. Or, if they are purchasing a car or tv – talk about the reliability of the product and give them statistics. Also use numbers, graphs, and lists whenever possible. “C” types in particular would want to know what the current owner’s average utility bills are when buying a home, or what the average return rate is on a tv. If you try to rush them, they will think you are being pushy and just looking for a commission. Slow and steady wins the race with these two personality types.

“D” and “C” personality types also make decisions based on logic. “I” and “S” types make decisions based on emotion. If you are working with a buyer who is challenging you, that would be a “D” or “C”. The great news? If they are challenging you, they are still interested! “I” and “S” types could easily change their minds as their emotions change. This sometimes makes them a little more difficult to deal with when trying to get a firm commitment.

Angel Tucker is an Expert Personality Profiler and best-selling Author of Stop Squatting With Your Spurs On! The power to read people, get what you want, and communicate without pain. She is an international speaker, mother of 4 and Air Force wife.